All of them.....through 18 holes...while the yawns back up behind the glazing
eyes, the brain freezes over, and the overwhelming urge to scream becomes
unbearable. Not even Niklaus and Palmer can dampen the hysteria that rises
at the prospect of having to endure eighteen holes of retrospective missed
shots, superb putts and ace gamesmanship.. (possibly just tolerable from
Seve Ballesteros..but it would be a close call.) It vividly illustrates
the expression "You had to be there....."
As you weren't, it is Hell.
Having a Golf Impaired Partner is a cross many people have to bear. And
one which is usually thrust upon them. Unless masochism rates high on their
pleasure scale.
I like this term better than "Golf Widow", because Widows have
a certain freedom to be "merry" in a fashion not always available
to those with the GIPs. I 'm sure that most GIPs owners are women, not for
sexist reasons, but on a purely practical level ( and speaking from experience)
I don't believe that there are many men humping the kids and weekend shopping
round the supermarket, while their wives are having 18 holes with their
friends. Call me cynical if you will .
Of course, GIP owners can always adopt the If-You-Cant-Beat-'em-Join-em
option. Most will no doubt give it a whirl for a while. However, there are
certain obstacles which will either make the GIP-ee more determined , or
think "Sod it".
First - you must both be free at the same time. Second - that has to be
a time at which the golf club rules (man made) will allow you both to play
together. This usually rules out Saturday or Sunday early mornings - the
most convenient times.
Third - if you can find a suitable time, you will probably need two cars.
As you can't play early on weekends then, unless you are both retired, the
chances of you both coming from the same place later in the day are not
high (unless you work together of course). Fourth and most important- you
should be aware that playing golf together is the equivalent of getting
driving lessons from a spouse, and fraught with the same opportunities for
ill-temper - but with the added danger of both sides having a bag full of
potential weapons.
So, my advice to GIPs owners is - certainly learn the game. It can be lovely
on a nice day and actually is an enjoyable way to have a stroll in nice
surroundings - BUT make sure you get yourself a congenial playing partner
who doesn't flare his/her nostrils and grit teeth with ferocious competitive
zeal whenever you hit a reasonable shot.
Get yourself a cat/dog/budgie/PC for company and realise that as your partner
is gone at the crack of dawn at the weekends, you can lie there with all
the bed to yourself until whenever you like. (Well, you can until you have
kids). So what if your children may have to be induced on a Friday, so the
birth won't interfere with the monthly medal at the weekend. So what if
all his jumpers have diamond patterns on them. So what, if he plays golf
in his dreams, and leaps from the bed each time he hits a drive. So what
if the kids think that this is his JOB!. (Unless of course, it is)
Just remember that at least you can be thankful that your partner has got
an obsession that gives exercise, a certain amount of mental discipline,
and that you know where he is. (And, hopefully, with whom). Ignore the people
that think you are a one-parent family. Give the kids golf lessons, and
maybe they will become professionals and keep you in style in your old age.